Give With Abundance

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The holidays are known as a time when the world at large focuses on giving. This season, use this beautiful opportunity to engage by giving with sincerity and deep generosity - and use it to directly serve you and your work. Here are four tips that giving can help you on your road to prosperity:

  1. Practicing generosity is a practice of abundance. By giving - whether it’s your time, energy, gifts, or charity - you are sending the message to your system and to the universe that there is more than enough for everyone, so you can afford to give what you have. Every time you give this holiday season, let yourself experience the fullness of your life that allows you to share..

  2. Giving keeps you healthy and happy! It turns out this is a scientific fact (!) and studies have shown that people who are generous are also healthier and happier, overall. What to learn more? Check out this article on Time.com, entitled “Being Generous Really Does Make People Happier.” Give in a way that feels good to you - that’s what it’s for! Let yourself enjoy and relish in the delights of giving. This will also help you free other people and be truly generous in your giving...

  3. Giving creates space for more. Every time you give something away, you make room for even bigger things that the Universe is waiting to put in your hands. Giving and receiving go together, after all - let your giving open you up to all the gifts coming to you.

  4. Practice gratitude. The more you appreciate what you have, the more joyful EVERYTHING in your life will be. Keep your gratitude playing at the level of your giving, and your experience of the holidays will be peak this year!  

As you’re learning more about your own relationship to giving, here are a few additional notes to help you use this season to go deeper and learn more about your blind spots.

  • Giving is not an effective tool to feel more worthy. True generosity doesn’t come from a need to look good or gain approval of others.   
  • Generosity is ruined when it is used to indulge in codependent patterns. Watch out for moments when you find yourself giving because the other person needs you to, or because you want them to respond in kind.  
  • Giving isn’t obligatory. Gifts that come with obligation on either side are the worst kind of gifts. Blech. If you don’t want to give, don’t. Know that the option is there for you if you’d like, but only give if it feels genuine and fulfilling to you.

This season, give as a deep expression of your authentic love and sincere appreciation - and let all the people you love in your life have their own experience. Let your generosity be an offering of freedom for yourself and your loved ones, no strings attached. With the right mindset, generosity can be a tool to fuel your journey of love, abundance and prosperity. Give generously, when and how you truly desire to, and stay curious and conscious throughout the process.

How to Make the Most Out of Coaching

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Our lives have all been touched by a powerful teacher or guide at some point in our lives - if we’re lucky, we’ve been blessed with many of them. A great teacher or coach is essential if you want to blast through your blind spots and claim your optimal success. You will have the most success if you come to your coaching relationship with a few principles in mind. Some of the inspiration for this post comes from an article by Tim Ferriss entitled, “The Magic of Apprenticeship--A How-to Guide.” It shows an interesting history of students finding apprenticeships that truly worked for them, and times when they didn’t. It got us thinking about finding the right coach and making the most of the coaching-client relationship. The way you show up for your coaching relationship will determine how quickly you reach your goals and how supported you feel during the process. Here are some guidelines to help you get the most out of coaching:

  1. Find a master. Many people choose to work with a coach to help them master an area of life that they struggle with. This might be relationships, business, mindset, or spirituality. If this is your situation, look for someone who knows more than you do about the area you struggle with. This may seem obvious - yet it’s often overlooked. The financial consultant who never has any money, the relationship coach who never has a steady relationship, the business coach who doesn’t have a successful business, the spiritual teacher who is manipulative and angry - they aren’t the ones for you. If you’re looking for someone to make you feel good, secure or to commiserate in your struggle, find a friend. If you’re looking for someone to blame when things do not go according to plan, get a stuffed animal. If you are looking for guidance towards your clear goals, find a master.

  2. Trust your gut. With #1 in mind, if you feel a person can help you, they probably can. When you are focused on what you want and the right mentor or coach appears (yes, he/she will appear!) you will recognize that person and understand that the Universe sent you a guide to help you on your mission. Often, finding the right person doesn’t require that much searching. You will know when you find him/her. The part of you that wants to research, interview a bunch - it’s a distraction from your truth. If you feel a big YES when you’re trying on working with someone, go with that. If it’s anything else, move on. Trust your gut.

  3. Get All The Way In. Ask yourself, “Am I here to learn?” Once you’ve chosen your coach, choose to go all the way into the container they hold for you. This takes faith in yourself (Choose this everyday!! You deserve it!!!) and in your coach (Why are you working with them otherwise?!). This also requires a surrender to the process they are guiding you through - and there is deep vulnerability in surrender, so be prepared to get uncomfortable out there on the edge of what you know - that’s how you grow. How do you know if you’re all the way in? We’re so glad you asked! Are you willing to do what your coach suggests (or do you come up with reasons why you should ignore their instruction)? Do you prioritize your work with your coach (or procrastinate with other activities)? Are you doing the work because it’s truly what you want in order to live the life you deeply desire (or because you want to be a good student)? If you choose the first part of each of those, you will hear and see the truth - comfortable or not - that will ultimately contribute to your growth. Release your grip on control. You chose your coach. Get all the way in.

  4. Take 100% responsibility for your own results. This is one of the most commonly misunderstood elements of working with a coach, or as it turns out, any teacher: they can’t do it for you. No matter how good your coach, no matter how amazing their advice, no matter what they have accomplished, it's still up to you to do the work to change your life. Only you (thank goodness, right?!) have the power to change your life. A great coach can hold a door open for you; you have to walk through it. This is so important, it rivals #1 in this list. Take 100% responsibility for your own results and you will change your life so fast your head will spin.

  5. Communicate. Talk to your coach about what’s going on. Let yourself be seen in your challenges and in your successes - this is how the work is done. Whatever you hide will sabotage the work. It’s vulnerable, we know. Include your coach in your process - especially if you’re struggling to make the most of the coaching relationship! They can help you through the issues you are having - let them. If the issues you are having are directly with your coach, you will only be able to take care of them and get on with your important work if you get it all out on the table.

The key to getting what you want--including the right teacher!--  begins with allowing yourself to want what you want, focus on what you love, show up fully and let the universe will provide. We love your questions and comments - please share with us below!

"Already Here," a New Anthem by Srikala

Jesse is excited about the new single from Srikala. Listen and you’ll understand why she sees it as her new theme song. Here is what Srikala has to say about it:

"The song entered my mind and heart when I was in Paris in Feb 2017. When it arrived, I was given a strong message from spirit that I didn't have to work too hard on how I would develop the song or what I would write. That the hardest part would be moving out of the way again and again and accept that this song is already amazing... even in its non physical state. The words, the beat, the emotions, the massive success of the song... it is "Already Here" and to let go of all my doubts, fears, and worries about who I needed to be or learn before I start. Just show up... and let the vibe send you."

What have you been reaching for that you can choose to experience as already here? What barriers could you cross with your art, your business, your spiritual well-being if you could let go of your doubts and just show up? How much more fun would you have in the process? “Already here” is the expression of all that Jesse teaches in musical form. Let this be the soundtrack to your life: stop working so hard. Show up fully, claiming who and what you truly are.

Everything that you want is already here.
Thank you so much, Sri, for all that you do in the world. This track is lifting our souls every single day.

Listen here: https://soundcloud.com/srikalamusic/already-here 
Learn more here: www.srikala.com