Is your empathy codependency in disguise?

Why is the internet filled with empaths?  Because most people alive today were raised by generations of parents who were unable to respect their children’s boundaries.  So we learned not to HAVE boundaries.  Not having boundaries (and still needing to navigate your dynamics with your parents) meant that you had to anticipate what your parents wanted, needed, and thought… so you could do whatever it was that they desired. So you would stay in their […]

When what scares you is pointing to your growth [here’s what to do!]

This is a gem from one of my favorite collaborations ever; my intimate talks with Elena Brower.  If what scares me is pointing to my growth… and I am completely debilitated and unable to go toward that which scares me… what’s my first move? -EB  There are two things that I find useful and use daily.  Just do it. Jump out of the airplane. The big word for that is ACTION – go into action, […]

Are you faking your faith?

So many of the conversations I’ve witnessed over the last two years have to do with uncertainty.  More precisely, how we deal with uncertainty. It feels like the whole world is taking on this question.  Which has led me to reflect on the subject of faith more deeply than ever. The experience, the meaning, the purpose, the resources faith can provide…. AND how to discern when spiritual bypassing sneaks in wearing faith’s clothing.  Faith has […]

Finding depth on Instagram (is your feed nourishing you?)

I’ve been really truly sincerely appreciating Instagram lately because I’m learning actual shit.  I’m inspired, I’m humbled. I feel seen and spoken to directly.  As I find more and more accounts that are speaking to my depth and my edge, I’m less and less entertained by more shallow videos of cuteness that I used to be obsessed with.  I want to be called out.  I want to be called in.  I want to be offered […]

The Counterintuitive Secret to Success

My friend and coach Rha Goddess recently said this to me and it hit me hard.   “Most people are in the throes of success, believing we are failing.”  Imagine what would be true if you believed THAT statement.  We live in a society of people-pleasers. People are asking us to follow the program and please them left and right because it’s the dominant paradigm. This can make it hard to see where we’re succeeding, failing, […]