Category Archives: Mindset

Harming or Healing? When TRUTH shows up.

The idea that I will never cause harm is a kind of toxic perfectionism. It’s what has my clients put me on a pedestal – from which I can only fall. I cause harm – we all do.  That doesn’t make it okay.  But the awareness makes it possible for me to see what’s really happening, be present when I am confronted, and use it to go deeper. Just three weeks ago, a family member […]

The hard truth about love that nobody talks about

In spiritual communities we love to talk about love. So much so that I’m hesitant to even have these conversations. We say: “Love is all there is.”  But what does that really mean?  It’s like… yeah, love. Of course. God is love and God is present in everything. That doesn’t mean we experience love and only love 24 hours a day! We’re human.  And I don’t think we fully, properly describe the alternative.  What I’ve […]

Disarm them with Love

We all get triggered. That doesn’t make us any less spiritual. In fact, I think you reach a milestone on the spiritual journey when you get conscious and curious about your triggers. You can see what’s actually going on inside of yourself. When a trigger arises, you’re not lost in a spiral of reactivity. You can say… Okay, something is happening right now.  And you get to choose how to respond from there. For me there’s […]

TRUST the realness – don’t fake it till you make it!

There’s a lot of ‘fake it till you make it’ positivity in the world. (I’m sure you’ve noticed.)  How do you feel about it?  Personally, I’m skeptical. In my own internal ecosystem, performing positivity has been harmful. I’ve harmed myself with my own demand to be positive all the time – as if that’s more spiritual than being negative.  It sets up this duality that we’re supposed to be a certain way. And if we’re […]

Transcend the Trap of Binary Thinking for Freedom & Growth

‘I’m whole, or I’m broken.’ ‘I’m good, or I’m bad.’ ‘I’m wealthy, or I’m broke.’ ‘I’m conscious, or I’m unconscious.’ Right? Binary thinking permeates our culture. As human beings, seekers, spiritual folks, healers – so much of what we are doing here on Earth is: Being confronted with oversimplified duality. Experiencing the contrast of what it feels like to be boxed into those restrictive options. Finding something else that isn’t either one of those things… […]