Tag Archives: clarity

The Things We Don’t Say

A lot of times, the things that we don’t say are difficult or negative in some way because we’ve been punished for saying those kinds of things before. We’ve been dismissed and invalidated, both of which are extremely painful. Sometimes we don’t say the thing when it’s something loving. Because it feels so intimate. And we’ve been rejected, we’ve been denied, we’ve been hoping to be met and haven’t been. Maybe we’re with partners who […]

Saying the thing is the path of ease

The clarity that you are already tapped into is relevant everywhere. You can see the potential, the possibilities, the limited beliefs, the hidden things.  Don’t hold back – say the thing. The thing that everyone is thinking. The thing that others are scared or hesitant to say. The thing that might make you sound different or crazy that no one else will ever say. And watch what happens.  Your ability, your comfort, your willingness to […]

Let go of the drama, Make the decision

I love this teaching.  It came from a collaborative process with my company’s creative director, Riyaana Hartley – who happens to be a stellar interviewer and filmmaker – when she asked me how I know when I’ve made a final decision.  I was so used to thinking that decisiveness and clarity = massive enthusiasm. A really big, over-the-top energy. The ‘HELL YES’.  Recently I’ve realized that (for me) that particular energy is still about getting […]

This Life is a Miracle

I have two questions for you today:  How often does life feel miraculous to you?  How often do you think about death?  In our day-to-day lives, most of us aren’t asking questions like this.  There’s actually a biological imperative to avoid the truth of life and death. It gets amplified by social media and entertainment. We’re surrounded by constant distractions through TV, marketing, social media, and the cult of “busy” all encourage us to ignore […]

What Independence Day 2020 Meant To Me

In the summer of 2019, I was in Norway speaking at a conference and had the unexpected pleasure of experiencing Norway’s independence day in Oslo. It was stunning for me, like witnessing the national holiday of some ethereal and magical land, not of this earth. People were dressed in the clothing of centuries past, celebrating, eating, and enjoying one another. I witnessed a national pride and unity in every person, child, and home that I […]