Tag Archives: comparison

Where the truth of your life is revealed

When we use comparison to attack ourselves, we’re measuring some gap that we perceive between them and us – and using that difference to make ourselves wrong.  Yet there’s something else happening, and it’s so valuable to understand. We’re recognizing something in that person that IS us.  We’re seeing a mirror. We wouldn’t register it otherwise. We wouldn’t notice or think about that person.  There are billions of people on the planet who I’ve never […]

I made myself jealous.

Over the past few months we’ve been studying the topic of comparison. Why we do it, where it comes from, how to interrupt it, and how we can use it to go deeper. I want to share a simultaneously humbling and empowering experience I had recently, when I compared myself to my client. I’ve introduced you to my client Vanessa before and you’ll see her again.  (She is the feature for the first season of […]

How to Stop Toxic Comparison

For the past few weeks, we’ve been talking about the sneaky and addictive nature of comparing ourselves to someone (or something) external.  How we unknowingly use it to sabotage ourselves, and why it can be so hard to break the habit.  This awareness of harmful comparison is the prerequisite – doing something with that awareness is the radical work.  That’s what we’re doing today. Once you realize you’re being sabotaged by comparison –  How can […]

Comparing is a Sneaky Tool of the Subconscious

This is the heart of all of the work that we do. We’re navigating the fact that we have two parts.  We have the part of us that wants to grow and improve and expand. To do more, serve more, have more, be more, experience more. And the part of us that will truly go to any lengths to prevent the exact thing that we want from happening. The bigger the desire, the bigger the […]

Comparing Will Distract You From the Truth Every Time!

Comparing ourselves to others can be addictive. I meet with all kinds of brilliant people who have incredible visions and intentions and offerings. Skilled people, with big beautiful hearts and a desire to realize their dream and serve the world. Even at that high level of excellence, comparison is something that people contend with. It shows up as the inner critic, the inner judge, the inner asshole. Maybe this feels familiar – You see people […]