Category Archives: Spirituality

Harming or Healing? When TRUTH shows up.

The idea that I will never cause harm is a kind of toxic perfectionism. It’s what has my clients put me on a pedestal – from which I can only fall. I cause harm – we all do.  That doesn’t make it okay.  But the awareness makes it possible for me to see what’s really happening, be present when I am confronted, and use it to go deeper. Just three weeks ago, a family member […]

The hard truth about love that nobody talks about

In spiritual communities we love to talk about love. So much so that I’m hesitant to even have these conversations. We say: “Love is all there is.”  But what does that really mean?  It’s like… yeah, love. Of course. God is love and God is present in everything. That doesn’t mean we experience love and only love 24 hours a day! We’re human.  And I don’t think we fully, properly describe the alternative.  What I’ve […]

Why I Get Excited When My Clients Get Angry

It’s better for clients to be mad at you than to be mad at themselves.  The space of self-attack is never conducive to growth or transformation.  When clients are angry, especially with me, I ask them to tell me all about it.  While they tell me, I do my best to listen without doing anything about it.  I resist the temptation to express or even think thoughts that defend or protect or explain myself.  This […]

A Life Changing Practice, but First Make it a Habit

You are standing at a fork in the road.  We all are. Anytime you’re thinking of making a change in your life, anytime you’re growing and transforming, there are two paths you can choose. The one you’re already traveling on, and the one that will take you where you really want to go.  It’s not always obvious.  Our subconscious makes noise to obscure the truth from us because it doesn’t want us to change.  So […]

Are you faking your faith?

So many of the conversations I’ve witnessed over the last two years have to do with uncertainty.  More precisely, how we deal with uncertainty. It feels like the whole world is taking on this question.  Which has led me to reflect on the subject of faith more deeply than ever. The experience, the meaning, the purpose, the resources faith can provide…. AND how to discern when spiritual bypassing sneaks in wearing faith’s clothing.  Faith has […]