When you are your business – as all spiritual teachers, healers, and coaches are, at least in part – any place where you find yourself insecure creates a magnet for poking. As you work on your mindset, as you master sales, as you increase your visibility and impact… Those little bits of doubt, fear, and worry get amplified. And everyone can see. When I started my coaching business in 2016, fashion was a questionable arena […]
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When we use comparison to attack ourselves, we’re measuring some gap that we perceive between them and us – and using that difference to make ourselves wrong. Yet there’s something else happening, and it’s so valuable to understand. We’re recognizing something in that person that IS us. We’re seeing a mirror. We wouldn’t register it otherwise. We wouldn’t notice or think about that person. There are billions of people on the planet who I’ve never […]
Over the past few months we’ve been studying the topic of comparison. Why we do it, where it comes from, how to interrupt it, and how we can use it to go deeper. I want to share a simultaneously humbling and empowering experience I had recently, when I compared myself to my client. I’ve introduced you to my client Vanessa before and you’ll see her again. (She is the feature for the first season of […]
The ego wants to be at the center. So why not let it be at the center? This is a pretty brilliant hack. You are the center of the universe (from your perspective). You’re also tiny and irrelevant (relative to the whole). So – you could not be smaller, AND – you’re right at the center. Let yourself have that. Let the ego have what it wants. Be the center that you already are. What […]
For the past few weeks, we’ve been talking about the sneaky and addictive nature of comparing ourselves to someone (or something) external. How we unknowingly use it to sabotage ourselves, and why it can be so hard to break the habit. This awareness of harmful comparison is the prerequisite – doing something with that awareness is the radical work. That’s what we’re doing today. Once you realize you’re being sabotaged by comparison – How can […]